PARTNER LIFE

Sometimes I wonder what makes a good life with partner. The good photos of partners I always see on facebook and advertisement, are they real or just merely illusion? I wanted what happen to myself would be different but looks like in reality it's not. They always say you need to change yourself so that you can change others. But isn't it that the others should also accept who you are as long as you do not do any harm to someone else intentionally?

I do think that may be I should change myself but in the process will it be like very pressurize until I lost myself? I certainly don't want that to happen.

It's a difficult question to find the answer indeed. But one thing for sure, I'm going to always do my best. Whether it's for changing or any other thing, as long as you keep telling yourself that you have did the best, there's shouldn't be anything to worry about.

What going to happen will happen anyway if you already did your best! Don't lost yourself.

PRUDENT AS A WAY OF LIFE

Prudent is a good habit but it seems to be quite hard to cultivate in this era where online shopping and digital economy is the norm. You don't know how much you have spent until your credit card statement arrived at the end of the month. And if you are able to pay the bill, you probably also won't feel anything about not being prudent.

Prudent is about getting the things that you only need and not the things that you want. Should this be the way of life? I think the answer is yes when you see some other people couldn't even live a normal life. Those money that you spent on items you want could have been the life saver for someone else. When you spent, you get the satisfaction of getting the item.

But, moving forward, please also think about some people that couldn't even get through their daily life normally before spending. Think of how their life would have been easier with the money that you spent on those items.

Another school of thought to be practised.

BONDING TIME SPENDING WITH LOVES ONE

When we are spending time with loves one, be it parents, wife, children. Sometimes we tend to have the feeling of not being present. May be it's because of the technology advancement today that let us connected all the time no matter where you are and what you are doing. Whenever there's festive session, the ads also showed that typically the family members just browsing their own devices although they gathered together in the same space. This is a common problem in this modern age.

So, in order to avoid getting into this trap. The subconscious mind has to be trained. When you are with your loves one, pay attention. Tell yourself that I'm here for bonding. To use part of my limited human life to gain something more meaningful with other human beings instead of worrying missing something latest that happening around the world which probably will not affect you much in short term.

Should you set a time limit on this? Yes, of course because everyone also has their own story even though you are part of the important characters in their stories. But actually you don't have to set the time, the event will set the time by itself to make you fully realized the potential of the bonding.

So next time, when someone trying to get your attention especially your loves one. Please train your subconscious mind to evaluate and shift the attention because something you are doing is not worth it over creating bond with the person.

POWER OF FOCUS [IT'S TIME TO WRITE AGAIN]

I'm back in writing again. All thanks to this new keyboard that I bought. It's not a waste of money to buy a new keyboard after all. At least it keeps my writing appetite going.

I intend to get this started again and with a focus objective. The focus objective is to write down a lesson of life in every new post from now on wards. This is not a diary. It's a lesson learned in life.

If there's one thing I learned from playing game, I think it's the power of focus. With the power of focus, it can get you through to the end. You may face obstacles along the way but as long as the will power is strong, you will get through it. It's a matter of putting in the time. But you need to ask yourself also, what do I gain from this persistent of focus. Do you enjoy the focus? or it's just a waste of time? If it's the latter, bail out is absolutely a good way.

This can be applied on any other things that you want to achieve in life. When you focus on it, ask is it something that you enjoy? and then follow by is this something that you will gain when you get through it? If the answer for latter is yes, then learn to enjoy the focus, make it a habit. With that, you will continue to move on to the next level.